Single Dad

I will be taking care of all three kids for three days in May. My wife has never been away from all of our children at the same time for this long. She went to Chicago over a long weekend with some friends a few months ago and took R(4yrs,boy) and T(13mth,boy). I took E(2yrs,girl) to my family's hunting camp and visited down there. Last October I was the best man at my friend's wedding and left my wife and kids at home that weekend (I wanted her to go and have my parents watch the kids but she refused [Actually this event was the source of a major fight that was the first time she fielded the possibility of leaving]). Apart from these events neither of us has been away from the children for any significant length of time.

I know she is worried about the kids being alone with me. She is not unfounded in this worry. There is a high likelihood that there will be mealtimes that I'm late in getting together by half an hour, or naptimes that might not be right on target. I might keep them up a while past bedtime if we are playing some game or reading books. I've never had them all to myself over several nights before. When I think about this it seems incredibly silly and childish to regard it as any kind of "event." I'm an adult father and it just shouldn't be this momentous.

I'd say she is a lot more worried about it than I am, both because I just don't worry all that easily and also because her pünktlichkeit/ordnungsliebe is a high bar. I think it'll be fine. In sort of pathetic display of lack of character, I am much more responsible when there is no one to pick up the slack. I hate this about myself but I'll probably be impelled to get everything done in a satisfactory manner because there is no other choice. When R was just a few months old I was still doing shift work and for a time my day off was Thursdays. R basically just lived in his swing all day, sleeping, and Laura was still teaching. I'd deep clean the house every Thursday before she got home from work. I typically lazed around playing with my son or burning time and then whipped myself up into a frenzy of vacuuming/mopping/dusting/picking-up only in the last hour or two before she got home. I always got it all done, and the pressure of wanting her to come home to a clean house was pretty reliable. I think to this day her impression is that I dutifully moved about the house doing responsible, productive things all day long. Effective shame in a certain way, once again.

Anyway, this is just an event coming up that is relevant to ADHD omissions. Submitted for the record.

Just my opinion, late dinners

Just my opinion, late dinners and late bedtimes are just no big deal at all. I worry more that my husband will injure or kill my son with his inability to think about consequences. There has already been a handsaw left on the floor PLUGGED IN for DAYS in our garage, and several other things similar to this.

I hope everything goes off without a hitch and that she enjoys her time away.

I forgot some exposition.She

I forgot some exposition.

She has an online friend who recommended her for a work-from-home job. This friend is actually part of the same group that met up in Chicago. They are all members of a mommy board who's babies were born in Dec 2008 (R), and they've kept together since. Anyway she did phone interviews and beat the competition so now she will be working probably about 10-20 hours a week whenever she has free time. The work is processing legal documents for real-estate deals and summarizing the key figures in a human-readable cheat sheet. It won't even be close to enough for anyone to live on, but we are planning on that taking the edge off the financing for the 8-day trip to DisneyWorld we are planning for R's 5th birthday. She's going to Pennsylvania for three days to train.

I'm excited for her not just because it will give us more options financially, but also because productive work like that, being engaged in something external to the family, is often lost for homeschooling moms. I think it'll make her feel better.