I started dating with my ADHD partner 1.5 years ago and got engaged last year. (He gets treatment and is on medication)
I am originally from japan and met him while i was working in australia (2006-2011). we`ve been friend for 4 years before started dating.
I knew from the start that he has ADHD. sure had to deal with a little bit of his mood swings,depression,easy to forget some arrangement etc.. but everything was so perfect. this guy is the most good thing ever happened in my life.
then last year on Nov, i had to leave Australia due to my visa conditions. (so now we are in LDR too..;( ) he proposed me 2 weeks before i was leaving australia.
everything seemed working between us last couple of months even we are miles apart from each other. We talked on the phone quite often, sms,skype...etc.
he was planing to come and meet my family here in japan.
We were talking about what we are going to do , what kind of steps to take for us to be together again. and we made some list to follow or what need to be done.
(we need to apply for a visa together for me to back in aus. lota paper/document work,,)
then,, he suddenly become a little bit of distance. no response for 1-3 weeks, won`t pick up phones...(it happened before but this time was three weeks so i started very worry)
He finally contacted me yesterday after 3 weeks of `disappearance`. and said ` I love you and i want to be with you, but i don`t know what to do anymore.i don`t know how to roll everything to be with you`
I was kind of shocked and confused. because we made LIST that we can follow up, i remind him/ask him to do. but seems like he has no idea what to do next?
I know that this act of `forgetness` is a common for ADHD person.. i don`t know what i can do anymore either :(