My fiance has ADD. He is loving, sweet and caring, yet impatient, impulsive and disorganized. I didnt understand him at first. But then we talked about ADD and how it caused him some problems at work before. He always tells me to be patient with him and that he promises to get better. My question is on how to give him the support he needs? And we have another issue: we have a communication problem. He tends to get aggressive and defensive eve if we're only chit chatting. I would like to avoid these tensions and help him focus more.
I need advice and some useful practical tips.
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on
It is great that your ADHD fiance is aware of his ADD issues and can see that ADD gets in his way at work. Many with ADD have difficulty assessing that ADD does, in fact, impact them, so this is a good first step. You don't mention in your email whether or not he is actively trying to treat either his ADD or his anger issues. Treatment is an important part of overcoming what he is facing. It is easy to say "I'll get better", and most ADD people do this because as far as I can see they are all eternal optimists about this. BUT, thinking and DOING are two very different things, and for you and your impending marriage, DOING is where the rubber hits the road
Keep us up to speed on your progress!