Finding this site and getting acquainted with ADD these last few months, has been cathartic for me. I have been married for 35 years and have been working hard to "fix" something in myself not knowing what it was. Blaming myself for being unlovable, stupid, too weak, too strong, nuts. I want to scream in frustration. But with this site I learn that I am not alone. I am not unlovable, stupid, too weak, too strong or nuts. And this site gives me a place to go with my fears, anger and frustration. It gives us a mirror to see ourselves in other people's stories. It gives us clues to what is going on in our ADD spouses mind. Please keep this site going for a long time. I am guessing a person needs to be here for a while until they have told all their stories enough times and get it out of our system. Having a place to go to vent my frustrations right now is helping me immensely. I am finding some clarity and working on acceptance. I may have to vent for a while yet.