Things spouses can do on their own

Hi.  I'd like some suggestions for activities a spouse can do on her or his own when in a relationship with an ADHD spouse, particularly if the non is contemplating a formal separation or divorce.  I'm looking for suggestions both for activities that I should know how to do so as to live independently (e.g., home repairs) and activities that I can do for fun as a quasi-single person (i.e., a person who the rest of the world thinks is married but whose spouse is emotionally or physically absent or distant and thus not available for activities).  I'm reasonably competent with things such as cooking, cleaning, and taking care of finances.  I've been reading, watching movies, and listening to music more than I used to.  I'd kind of like to travel but have a dog to take care of.  Any suggestions?  Thank you.

Working out!


nothing makes me feel better than getting into great shape, breaking a sweat, getting the endorphins pumping. Could you join a gym? I think that would be a great complement to the reading and music... I am not sure if you like exercise, but man does it feel awesome. It,s also a great stress buster. If you don't have the money for a gym, long walks can be great as well- you can bring your dog!

another idea- maybe a road trip with your dog to a nearby ci for a few days? There are some hotels that are pet-friendly and it could be a fun little adventure and a good first 'trip' for you to take solo.



Better questions is... what can't you do?

Hi.  Think about what you liked to do when you were 8 years old.  Or 17 years old.  Things that involve active "play".  I also use passive activities like music and reading but they have become more escape than involvement.    The trick for me has been not to reject any and all "suggestions" because of obstacles, real or imagined.  Just doing anything, going anywhere is more important than what the activity is, when you are just getting into practice.  Recommend the book The Artists Way because it gives you many activities and exercises to get you out of the house on your own, focusing on learning about what gets your juices flowing.  You don't have to want to be an artist.  best wishes.