Today H and I were working at our business. Afterwards, we had some shopping to do at 2 different stores. At the first store, we each took our own list and agreed to meet back. I couldn't find an item so it took me a TINY bit longer...not much longer. H was livid.
In the car-ride to the next store, H lectured me about how stressful shopping is, etc, and how I contribute to the stress. I told him that since shopping is stressful then I will go by myself. (easy solution!) Oh, but no. H became very insulted by that. He said that it was a "stick in the eye" for me to say that I would go alone rather than "make sure" that nothing stressful happens. How am i supposed to do THAT.
Then and there I realized that any solutions that I can come up with to deal with H's mental conditions need to be kept secret. In the future, I won't shop with him. I won't announce it, because he'd be insulted by it. He thinks that my suggestion is just a way of saying, "there's nothing I can do to remove your stresses, so I'd rather go without you.