Is there anything I can do about it, without getting myself in trouble?
I suspect YYZ is in for another dose of deja vu.
To keep it short... I've always had a high sex drive, I'm a guy, I enjoy it, it was always one way I could should give my wife some focused attention and thereby demonstrate that I loved her, it made me feel wanted and loved in return, and in retrospect I'd also probably been using it to unknowingly self-medicate my ADHD before it was diagnosed.
In our younger days, when we first met, my wife was something of a go getter as well. With few responsibilities and just ourselves to worry about, everything was Jim-Dandy.
Later, with two kids growing older, bills, jobs, odd work hours, so on and so forth, we had a lot less time for it. Now, I really like all the extra romance that goes into gearing up for sex... The teasing and the flirting and the cuddling and such. But we didn't have much extra time for it. We still had sex, but it was quick and dirty (no pun intended) and a lot more... functional... than before. As one would expect, she became less interested, I became less satisfied, and it all became a lot less frequent.
Now, after things have come to a head (again, no pun intended), we're living in separate bedrooms. We haven't had sex in months. But I'm no less interested or eager, and after all this time, it's just about got me crawling up the walls.
I don't watch porn. I've never cheated on my wife, never had an affair -- I've never even slept with another woman other than her. Though, I've got admit, they're both terribly tempting, and I'm not certain what I'd do if a woman actually propositioned me... I'm trying to avoid the that situation altogether.
There's the obvious answer, but right now that's like snacking on stale popcorn, when what I really want is a big turkey dinner with all the trimmings, extra gravy on the mashed potatoes and a slice of pie for dessert. To quote Green Day, "When masturbation's lost its fun, you're fucking lonely."
What to do?