Submitted by Oteb011 on 08/01/2013.
I have adhd and frustrated because its hard to keep up with every thing. I work hard and make a very good income. I have a vey loving wife and 4 children. My baby is a senior in high school. I am 44 yrs old yet I have a strong desire to downsize to a condo or something smaller which would free up time and money and stress on myself. I thought maybe we as a couple would have more freedom and less cost thus being to travel and go out and play more. On the other hand my wife likes the big house and pool for the family parties and for the kids to come to as their families grow. Am I being selfish or should keep pushing forward for another 15 yrs until retirement?
A good compromise
Submitted by carathrace on
Congratulations on managing your ADHD so well. Since you make a very good income, I think a good compromise might be to stay in your house until retirement and HIRE EVERYTHING OUT. Hire a lawn care company. Hire a handyman to fix things. Hire somebody to clean the pool. This way your wife will be happy in her environment, and you can relax more knowing somebody else is taking care of the chores. You do not need to feel guilty about this. There's only so much you can do in a day, and coping well with ADHD takes up a lot of energy.