Trying To Make Progress

Hi all,

Not sure if this is in the right spot or not, sorry. I'm in my early 30's, married, two kids, and have recently (within a month) been diagnosed with ADHD. I'm currently reading through Orlov's book as well as doing some general research on ADHD. I had suspected I had ADHD for some time, but things started coming to a head about a year ago with my wife. We were fighting way more than usual and though it took me forever to follow-through, I finally did see a specialist and was diagnosed. I won't go through the details because they mirror much of what's said in Orlov's book as well as other writings on how ADHD affects people. I find my self nodding and agreeing with much of what I've read.

I've started on Strattera last week so hopefully that will help give a boost. I feel like I'm beginning to get a handle on things somewhat. Even though I had suspected my issues, as I mentioned, I had never made much progress, unfortunately. This, of course, had a terrible affect on my marriage and while I'm working on my end I fear it may be too late for my wife to feel like she can work on the marriage. I understand why she feels the way she does and she understands what's happening (she's also read Orlov's book), but we may have gone too deep. Hoping for some more positive progress.

Common feeling

2.5 years ago I felt the same way. Things were spiraling out of control, leading to panic attacks and my diagnosis of ADD at age 43. I too thought that maybe too much damage was done. I felt so guilty about how my symptoms had damaged our relationship. Keep working and learning and acknowledge the role you have played in your marital troubles, but remember its not All you. 

Your new actions will eventually help repair the lost trust, but this is a slow process.

Keep up the good work!

Thanks

Thanks for the reply and the encouragement. Indeed it is slow, but I'm working on it. Thanks again!