I used to love watching TV and it was one of the things me and hubby have in common. We've been married 14 years. Early in our marriage. We used to live to watch TV together. But I've come to realize it seems to be the thing he's closest too. I used to suggest doing other things with our time. Like board games. He did play a couple of times with me but he was miserable doing it. The last time I suggested it. I had set up a table with 2 cups of hot chocolate & whipped cream and set up a game of backgammon. It looked so inviting too. When I called him over he was very insistant that he didn't want to play. Board games are boring! I tried pleading but he wouldn't budge. I finally threw the hot cocoa down the drain and just went to our room frustrated and upset. I gave up and just went along watching shows and movies. What else can we do. I feel as though I'm the third wheel. I would watch shows & movies with him, even ones I didn't care to watch just to go along and keep the peace. Never mind him watching what I want. I'd have to compromise watching either stuff we both liked or stuff he liked. It feels like he has a new best friend and wants me along to go and do all the stuff they like to do. We recently canceled cable & phone because of our finances and just have internet. We have Roku to watch Hulu. Forget about it! now he's able to watch and fall in love with old shows he grew up with all over again. And countless number of others. I just gave up and let him have his time with his new friend. Sadly it's feeling more and more like were losing "us". I've recently been formally diagnosed and am on medication for ADD (Concerta). It's helped me so much in getting more done around the house and with my kids. And has also improved my mood. I feel bored watching TV. And busy myself finally doing stuff around the house and spending more time with our kids. It's helping me adapt. But I feel like were living two separate lives. Hubby does have ADHD. He used to take Ritalin as a child and fits all the symptoms in the checklists! I figure maybe getting treated might help. I asked him about it. He says Ritalin didn't work. I wish he would get help but he'll have to decide to want to do it on his own I guess. Forget about having deep meaningful discussions. It seems the most conversation we have his "how was your day" and daily mundane things.
As for the TV issue I've spoken to him about it several times, but he feels like I'm making a big deal about it. He's happy in his own world. I want to be a part of it but not as a spectator. So I guess I'll just get along in mine and enjoy the little time we have together when he's not with his best friend :(