My husband so self un-aware, he can't accurately answer questions to get a proper diagnosis. He always answers questions in the way he would like things to be. Not how they are. I am so frustrated that he keeps "failing" the ADHD questionnaire. He's working in a different state, so I couldn't be there for his doctor's visit. I've spent years of trying to get him to see that his underemployment, financial disasters, poor emotional management, self medicating, disorganization, inattention, firings, no friends, hyperactivity--and my biggest pet peeve: interrupting me when I'm talking---all point to ADHD. I know I'm not a professional, but I have been studying ADHD for years, as my daughter and I have the inattentive type.
With no diagnosis, he thinks he's fine. We will have been married for 25 years in April, and I really don't want to throw it all away, but we are both are exasperated. We'll be taking the upcoming couples course with Melissa Orlov, and I can bet my husband will be on the other end of the phone, 3 states away, knocked out sleep...It's so depressing already.
Along with the questionnaire, he took a computer test (CPT3) this time around, and I guess he passed it. The doctor told him all he has is very mild depression. Lord, I wish she could walk in my shoes for 2 days. I guarantee she would re-evaluate her results. I've looked up the test, but I'm curious to know if anyone else was required to take the test for their diagnosis.
I really love my husband and want to make this work for a lifetime, but I am not getting any younger. So I'm putting a lot of hope in this counseling---hope that he will see himself in others, and initiate some well-needed changes. (And I'll be doing the same).