Unequal division of responsibility -- for worrying

People have been talking about anxiety quite a bit lately in connection with another topic.  I want to share my nonADHD perspective on anxiety.  One of the hardest things for me during my marriage, at least in the past few years, as our children have gotten older and had more challenging problems and our finances have gone south and other problems have popped up, has been that it appears that someone other than me decided that I should be the designated worrier and problem solver.  So, when one child almost failed a class, I worried and I dealt with the problem.  When she almost wasn't allowed to graduate, I worried and I dealt with it.  When a child got a drinking ticket, I worried and I dealt with it.  Most of the time, my ADHD spouse was not exhibiting any anxiety nor was he assisting with dealing with these issues.  Now, I am currently better understanding from reading people's posts that people with ADHD often are worrying, like about how their answers to questions are going to sound (and other things, too).  But hey, I"m over here worrying and then dealing with the problems and I DON'T LIKE IT ANYMORE THAN YOU DO! Worrying sucks!  And I know that no one HAS to worry, but I'm hardwired to be a worrier, too, and the difference between me and my spouse is that I accept that there are things to worry about, that it's a dirty job, but someone's got to do it.

OK, done whining.  This is something that frustrates and saddens me.  Thanks for "listening."