unwillingness to understand ADHD

About 3 years ago, I was diagnosed with ADHD.  It was great to learn that I'm not crazy, I'm just crazy ;-)

Over the last couple of years, I've begun to see ADHD in my boys (now 7 and 8).  The three of us have been seeing a therapist and have not yet gone through the full ADHD screening for the boys--especially since my spouse and I cannot agree on medication.  Truthfully, while I'm not completely sure of what the diagnosis would be (although my gutt is that they are both on the low side of the spectrum--but still on the spectrum), my husband truly doubts that the boys are ADHD (probably doesn't really believe it even exists as it's just an excuse for our inability to listen, follow-through, prioritize, etc.).  No, he doesn't go see the therapist.  The one time he did go, he was more interested in the blackberry than in the conversation with the therapist.

So, given that simple background, I need some help finding the right information that will help my husband begin to see that I'm not just making this stuff up--especially where my boys are concerned!  It can't be too longer either because my husband barely has the time or patience to listen to even a paragraph on a condition that doesn't really exist.

Right now, we are really struggling with the 8 year old's behavior (e.g., touching everything and anything in site in public--shopping, doctor's office, etc., lack of follow-through, not listening--not even the 3rd or 4th time, etc.).  And, I'm beginning to see the self-esteem issues in my 8 (nearly 9) year old and the socialization issues started with him last year.  My husband doesn't believe that continued belittling of him and physical punishment has any effects on self-esteem.  He doesn't even realize/believe that ADHD is a factor--doesn't seem to get that our son really can't control himself. 

I hope I've explained this well enough to get the right kind of help...  Thank you!