On the verge of giving up

I just can't deal any more. I got no Christmas present at all, not even a card. For my birthday in early December, he did take me out to dinner and bought me a cell phone. BUT, he bought one I can't use and lost the receipt so we can't return it (might as well have set fire to a $50 bill).

In July, I told him I needed him to help me save up $1500 so I could have surgery. That is the co-pay and it has to be paid up front.  I told him I need to have the surgery completed before I can work in my chosen career. (He disputes that assessment but I  believe no one will hire me with the problem untreated. I know I won't be able to get it done if I do get a job because I wouldn't be able to take off that much time.) I just graduated but I can't look for a job as it hasn't been done. Although I worked 2 jobs for 2 1/2 years, he refuses to do the same for me.

I asked him to consider coaching or Cognitive Behavior Therapy. He says his boss (mental health agency) never heard of that for ADD so he won't even consider it. Apparently, I'm just supposed to accept all his behaviors exactly how they are with no changes ever, but I'm supposed to stop being angry with him for all the problems he causes.

We have no heat and it has been pretty cold this week. It's hard for me to type for very long. Last night, I told him that I want to move in with my daughter, who can afford to heat her house. He did not respond except to complain about the headache he has.

When he decided not to work, I supported him. When he needed medical things, he got them, even though he wasn't working and my job had no medical insurance. How do I avoid feeling that he doesn't love me when he won't do the same for me? Or should I just give up?