What to do??? Please help

feel like I’m at the end of my rope with my ADHD husband. His anger issues have gotten the best of me. I try and try but no matter what, it is always “my fault”. Last night, he was physically abusive to me. He is constantly mentally and verbally abusive. He has issues with other family members as well but always finds ways to blame everybody else. I’m at work now and I don’t even want to go home. I’ve asked him to go to anger management – he says no. I’m tired of walking on eggshells around him. It was the final straw last night when the kids witnessed part of his tantrum (throwing things, breaking things, screaming). He left the house in a rage. I’m glad he left but then I got no sleep terrified that he would come back. Before he got mad (and I don’t really even know why he got mad), he was perfectly fine!!! We were out having a nice family dinner! Please help! Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks…