I have never been formally diagnosed with ADHD, but based on my life history and my neuro-psych testing results "ADHD - highly probable", i believe that i have ADHD (inattentive). My wife says that i don't try hard enough, that i'm not pulling my weight in the marriage. She doesn't want to pay to have me tested so someone can us that i have ADHD, because i won't follow thru on anything a therapist suggests (go figure!). She doesn't really understand ADHD and doesn't want to learn about it. She says that i am just using it as a "get out of jail free" card when i neglect to do something. What have others done to get their spouse to understand?
if your non-ADHD spouse doesn's believe or understand your ADHD?
Submitted by USAF Civil Servant on 08/22/2016.
Regardless of her reaction -
Submitted by SpaceyStacey197... on
You need professional
Submitted by NowOrNever (not verified) on
You need professional diagnosis. From someone who will do the formal, full testing, and is trained in ADHD. You need to know who you are. I tend to put a lot of stock in what people sense is possible about themselves. But you need to get from good guesses to knowing.
Your wife's doubts shouldnt stop you from finding out who you are.
Best to you.