I'm not sure I know anymore. How do you know if you are in love? I've been married for over 10 years to my ADD spouse and we have two wonderful children.
Although my ADD husband is attractive, I'm kind of grossed out by sex and even kissing him, and any contact between us is just awkward. I think it's that whole parent-child dynamic we've got going on. But it's not like I'm some prize, I should be thankful he's attracted to me! With my own self esteem issues I'm so lucky someone wants to be with me...why don't I want to be with him anymore??
When he travels occasionally, I look forward to it. I am so much less stressed. When we are apart, I don't miss him. When I come home from traveling or even just a day at work I am not excited to see him, in fact I get depressed.
I keep thinking as we try to work through the issues associated with his ADD, things will get better and I will be attracted to him and in love again...but does that really happen?