What is the most stark truth your partner with ADHD has said?

My ex-husband said to me once or twice, "I can barely take of myself."  This came after I felt at the end of my rope and shared with him how stressful it was and how sad I felt that he was not contributing more to the family via financial, emotional, and logistical support. It was devastating for me to hear him say this but humiliating, I'm sure, for him to reveal it.