When do I get to hurt? When is it my turn to be the one who needs help? If it's not the ADHD, then it's the depression that disrupts our marriage. Although my husband does contribute in some ways to the running of the household and family, I feel like the lion's share is on my shoulders. I don't feel like I can fully trust him since he's proven he lacks the ability to follow through on things that are important. It hurts to see him hurting, but I am too. He used to give me so much emotional support and now I feel like I get none.