Many of us post here about lack of grooming in our ADHD husbands. Why is grooming such a big issue with them? My DH has the most disgusting feet and toenails you can even imagine. Why can he not keep them trimmed?? He walks around barefoot, if I can see them he can see them. I have asked him to keep socks or slippers on because his toes are gross and he tells me to get over it, it's just feet. Ditto the fingernails--long, hangnails, raggedly. Why?? Stuff in the ears--yuck. Why is keeping yourself together such a big thing? He showers every night and he does brush his teeth but his breath is terrible even still. I have no idea why. I am not being sarcastic--I want someone to explain the connection between ADHD and poor grooming. I wonder if it comes from the same place as the "not seeing the mess" comes from--like those of us with husbands that can walk right by an overflowing garbage can and literally not see it. That kind of thing--a lot of us post about that too--how do they NOT see _____________ (whatever it is). Maybe it's the same with grooming. I refuse to tell my 48 year old husband his nails need trimming. My two teenage boys don't need reminding for crying out loud. Don't you care what you look like?