Hey all, I'm new here so go easy lol. First of all, I know most of the problems in my marriage I brought on myself. I have been diagnosed, and I do take meds. I've made some mistakes I'm not ready to fully discuss. For the last maybe year, my drinking has gotten worse (bad coping skill I know), and so has my ADHD. My wife has slowly started withholding affection and intimacy from me. She says she's "guarding" herself. I have stopped drinking and plan on doing so for a few months at least. Anyway, things have gotten pretty bad lately and it's hard to communicate. If I talk about my feelings, she gets mad. She says she's trying to trust me again. I get that. It's just hard because it feels like I'm being punished, and the punishment doesn't fit the crime. I think it is just going to take some time to get back to a good place with her. And I get impatient. I know that will be a difficult one bc you don't know all the details. But I just wondered if anyone else out there might be going through something similar?