I was diagnosed with ADHD about 2 and half years ago and have been fairly successfully medicated for the past year. I currently struggle with going to bed on time, waking up before noon, and remembering to take my meds on time.
I am currently working with a psychologist and my husband and I are seeing a couples therapist. I am reading, Understanding women and ADHD right now, I had read other books over the years but this one is very helpful to me. I shared a paragraph with my husband, when he asked me what had brought me to such a state of weeping almost uncontrollably, and he proceeded to tell me that most people would like it if our significant others were helping and understanding and he did not see why that would make me cry.
Most of the time when I attempt to share anything to help him understand my behavior and a more helpful way of supporting healthy change versus yelling at me, telling me I am broken, or just blaming me for blaming ADHD for my problems, he then starts telling me his problems and tells me that everyone has problems and basically walks away. Then I think we are making progress in couples therapy and I am fully impressed by his actions there and then a few days later he starts bashing our therapist and that he does not want to work on anything, including the negative words he uses with me because he is too tired to watch what he is saying and does not feel it is fair for him to have to watch his words like that. I am already past wanting to fight anymore and I have no idea what more I can do to help him in seeing that a marriage is a two way relationship.
I have made a lot of progress in my own self esteem and how to stand up for my rights, because I recognized a lot of the frustration in my husband's voice that I heard in my parents voice growing up I knew something in my head was not the same as others. I have had a lot of support from my teachers in the past and from other strangers that I feel blessed that I did not take my life at an early age over family frustration but I did run away from them after I graduated high school and ended up in a career that I fully hated and almost let myself be taken from all joys of life. After I went back to university that is when I went to see a councillor for help. I got amazing help.
I continue though to receive anything but blame from my family and my husband. I don't want to lose the progress that I have made on myself but I feel like such a loser to have such people in my life. Any advice?