My ADHD partner and I live separately. That's good in some ways as reduces conflict over housework. What maddens me is that when he's decided we've had an argument (it's usually a small bicker that somehow cuts him like a knife) he will withdraw for days on end saying 'let's take a break.' He will message but not pick up the phone. Weekend plans made previously become uncertain. It drive me crazy but when he's in withdrawal I have no option to explain how I feel. Is this really just ADHD or is it just mean?
Withdrawing and I’m meant to just be ok with that?
Submitted by Sadandconfused on 02/09/2023.
Submitted by Elliej on
I havent experienced this with my ex- husband who has ADHD. Usually he couldnt pick up it was a row or that i was unhappy, then forgot. However this may be you partners emotional dysregulation kicking in. But it is immature, mean behaviour to stop communicating. It will lead you to stop talking or raising issues. That isnt healthy x