"You KNEW you had ADD before we got married and didn't tell me!"

I finally asked my wife (non ADD) to read the book.  But, not the whole book (too much to ask), just the first 30 pages and to tell me what she thinks.   For me, it's been truly eerie to read this book b/c every single paragraph is a "whoa" moment b/c it really feels as if someone has been living in my house with my wife and I and taken notes and put them all to paper.   Well, she made it through the first 17 pages and took this from the book: 1. "You WON'T take any medicine to help the ADD. . .it even says so in the book!"       Me: "Really, where did it say that b/c I somehow missed that section."    2. "You KNEW you had ADD before we got married and didn't tell me! You've been told to take medicine before and didn't and you won't do ANYTHING to help it!"         Me: "You're right. In the past I have taken medicine and it had a HORRIBLE effect on me and scared me.  Part of my not wanting medicine was b/c I wanted to feel like could control myself.  I also never met or spoke to or read anything that could really understand what it's like to be me - someone with ADD.  After reading just PART of this book, I feel like I found someone/thing I can trust.  I want to try again."   3. "Why should I read anymore? You'll never change!"    This followed closely with the rest of our conversation circling around how me and the ADD are the reason for all of our problems; thus, she has NOTHING to do to help/fix us.  It's all up to me b/c I'M the one with the problem.     Anyone have any advice to help?