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I've come here by way of Orlov's first ADHD Marriage book following my wife of 10+ years diagnosis of ADHD last year. The book was tremendously helpful in my ability to both name my feelings and develop empathy for my spouse. Her therapist was unsurprised to hear of her diagnosis and, at that time, also suggested that she may be mildly autistic. I had originally focused on the ADHD portion of her diagnosis but am now looking to grow in my understanding of her autism as I often keep coming back to a core concern of not being able to understand her (feelings, frustrations, desires, etc). Does anyone have any resourses to share with me? Thank you!
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Samsies
Im in the same boat and also facing a child with autism diagnosis so I'd be keen to hear/see any recommendations.
me too
With my ex, I’m increasingly seeing traits that look more autistic (and/or narcissistic) than ADHD. Eg autism: a preference for repetitive familiarity over novelty, sensory avoidance. Narcissism - very elevated sense of self-importance and seeking to surround himself with ‘important’ people. The notion that he would ever seek a diagnosis for any of this is frankly laughable, though; afahc, he’s perfect and I’m crazy for breaking up with him. It’s less of a pressing issue for me now that we have separated, but I still would like to work out what happened and why. So resources would be great.