I found the book helpful in providing clarity on my emotions. You have to be honest in answering the questions asked. In my opinion, if you're reading it you're likely looking for reasons to leave. I certainly was. Honestly answering the questions it asked helped me realistically evaluate our relationship, and if it was salvageable. The book "Boundary Boss" was also helpful. They both help you figure out what are your true "deal breakers". ADHD overtakes your life, and these books at least put the emphasis on what you are going though instead of your partner's problems. My 2 cents worth :-)
I own it and had gone through it multiple times. It has definitely helped me evaluate my relationship and honestly usually makes me feel better about my relationship after reading (I am with a very kind and motivated man who struggles with practical tasks due to his adhd). Helps me remember the really good things about our relationship and puts my frustration in perspective a bit… I will say it has been a bit confusing to read within the context of adhd. Some of the stay/go decision making prompts they provide would work better with neurotypical folks. It doesn’t account for someone not making changes that you have asked for but struggling to implement despite wanting to because of adhd. But as long as you understand adhd well enough to account for this, I think it’s a good resource.
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I found the book helpful in providing clarity on my emotions. You have to be honest in answering the questions asked. In my opinion, if you're reading it you're likely looking for reasons to leave. I certainly was. Honestly answering the questions it asked helped me realistically evaluate our relationship, and if it was salvageable. The book "Boundary Boss" was also helpful. They both help you figure out what are your true "deal breakers". ADHD overtakes your life, and these books at least put the emphasis on what you are going though instead of your partner's problems. My 2 cents worth :-)
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I own it and had gone through it multiple times. It has definitely helped me evaluate my relationship and honestly usually makes me feel better about my relationship after reading (I am with a very kind and motivated man who struggles with practical tasks due to his adhd). Helps me remember the really good things about our relationship and puts my frustration in perspective a bit… I will say it has been a bit confusing to read within the context of adhd. Some of the stay/go decision making prompts they provide would work better with neurotypical folks. It doesn’t account for someone not making changes that you have asked for but struggling to implement despite wanting to because of adhd. But as long as you understand adhd well enough to account for this, I think it’s a good resource.