Forum topic: Damn…

I’m new here and just started the ADHD Effect on Marriage audiobook and…it’s been hard. Both my wife and I have ADHD, as well as our five children who have Auhd. Everything I’ve heard we’ve gone through and it has brought me a lot of sadness. The frustration and pain my wife has gone through during our marriage was being said in the book as if someone had recorded us. We have separated for a few months and have tried to work on it for the last 3yrs but continue to hit a wall where she’s pretty much had enough. Whatever trust has eroded away, the respect is gone. We stay in separate rooms. It’s heartbreaking but I take full accountability in my part. I’m 43 now and was diagnosed about 10yrs ago. I started on meds initially and then stopped. Got back on meds but never did any therapy until 4yrs ago. Neither of us really understood the true effects of ADHD and I certainly didn’t and just thought I could will my or it wasn’t a big deal. I didn’t find a therapist that was specialized in ADHD until last week and that changed everything for me. My understanding of it and what indeed to do help myself to stay focused and organize myself. Unfortunately, all of that has come to little too late. It’s an odd feeling to feel like you see who you really are and able to embrace it but also know the shit storm I kicked up all these years has destroyed my best friend. At this point just hoping to heal and be the best coparent I can be. Damn..