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I’ll never be able to inhabit the mind of my ADHD wife and know what it feels like to truly not be able to execute a task.
But she’ll also never be able to inhabit my mind, and to feel what it’s like to do every task anyway - no matter how much I’d rather not.
So I guess I’m not convinced - I’m not convinced there’s a clear distinction between how loathsome a task is for her that she medically can’t do it (I mean physically there is nothing that prevents her from loading the dishwasher) and how loathsome I find the same tasks that I nonetheless do.
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Execute a task....
Being present and producing energy, immediately turn's the energy off for some minds...My wife watched me produce energy for 17 years...Now she doesn't have that, (me in her life) and she is magically producing energy again!....It's a miracle!
Boundaries can help...
c
C is right
Inability in an ADD spouse is not an isolated thing, it’s partly a response to a spouse overcompensating.
I cried when I heard my ex, who for more than a decade has extracted absolutely all I had by his passivity, is “doing much better” on his own.
Don’t let yourself burn out to warm her.