How do you all keep your kids on track (as best as possible) for household tasks when your partner doesn't do anything (literally)? Am I'm not being dramatic, if i thought talking about or figuring out a good time to being it up or whatever, blah blah would work...I would not be asking this question.
I.underatand that kids don't care what you say, it's what you DO. And I'd like to try to install a bit of life skills in my kid, I think im doing a good Jo but dang if it's not pushing water up a hill bc my partner just doesn't show up. At all. In any sense.
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Could he support you in appointing tasks?
My ex wanted to help, but was often unable. However, he did one valuable thing, which was to support the idea of chores for the kids.
We started it when the youngest was about seven, and it applied to all the children equally, starting at the same time. Their task was to do dishes and tidy up the kitchen, take trash out, after breakfast and lunch every day there was no school. They needed to each do a fair share.
This worked so well, in fact it still holds five years later. It’s something about every family member being aware of it, and the task being the same every time.
If your husband could support some regular chore system like that, even if he doesn’t do much himself, that could be helpful I think. Two parents asking something together gives a lot more stamina to it.
I hope you’ll find a way to get some help with housework! You have enough already without doing that too.