I am being accused of being abusive and have been ghosted by my wife and am going through a divorce without having ever been tod there was even an issue this large. It is quite hard to be called abusive when I know I have a giant heart and most of the symptoms driving the accusations are related to my ADHD.
... he sincerely doesnt think that his actions should be reflective of his feelings towards me.
Guys, I'm looking for support and help from both nons and those with ADHD on the site. It's been a tough few days. Hurt feelings, rage, resentment and more. I know I don't want to be in a marriage like this, I deserve better....but when the DX has happened within the year and we haven't found our footing but dang, it's really taken hold, what can be done besides working on myself.
What do I do? :-(
Recently there's been debate on the forum on whether it's irresponsible to carry on with problem-ridden ADHD-non marriages. When it's hard, should we just end things?
I'm currently in a marriage of ten years that has been gradually going downhill for the past 8 years. My wife and I got together when we both had young kids from previous marriages, and I feel like we did a great job of raising a stepfamily despite all of those challenges that come with being a stepfamily. Now, two of our three kids are off in college and the youngest (my stepson) is 16. So, he hardly needs (or wants) our continual attention, but he does need care like any kid.
This is just bizarro world. We've been together for 5 years. Been through many sessions of couples therapy and have made a lot of progress, and lately it's been all success stories. We had been really happy lately. An old conversation/issue escalated in the last week - and I will admit that the peak of the escalation was my fault - but that was it for him.
I'm reading a lot of comments on here which hit someone with ADHD really hard.
My husband has ADHD. Yesterday it turned out again that he forgot to turn off the auto-renewal of the unnecessary service, and a sum of money was deducted from us just like that. Because it ignores warning messages. I was on nerves all day yesterday. Today I was involved in a traffic accident. And it turned out that my husband mixed up the dates and we don’t have car insurance for this week. We'll have to pay for the repairs yourself. This has been going on for many years. He doesn't exercise, he doesn't meditate, he doesn't take any obvious steps to work with his ADHD. At the same
After a 15month trial separation, i filed for divorce. Its over or maybe the fight has just begun.
From the point of realising he had ADHD It took him 3months to get a diagnosis, a further 6months to get medicine and 10months to start therapy. I started therapy may 2022, he started september 2023. He let me fight all alone. If it was important to him, he would have tried.
Turn your knowledge into actionable steps to improve your relationship. join our Intent-to-Action Membership Program.
The ADHD Effect on Marriage was listed in Huff Post as a top book that therapists suggest all couples should read.
"Your weekly messages are beyond wonderful to receive, I cannot thank you enough! Please know the gifts that you give are treasured."
