Hiding Behind a Wall?

ADHD & Marriage News - February 10, 2026

Quote of the Week

“Before I built a wall I’d ask to know what I was walling in or walling out."

- Robert Frost

A human response to pain is to retreat or build a wall around oneself. While walls can be helpful for short-term protection, they are often problematic for couples. Because except in a few specific instances (such as physical abuse) when a couple struggles it is the result of what BOTH partners are contributing to the relationship. In ADHD-impacted relationships the most common combination is one partner is contributing under-managed ADHD symptoms and chaos; the other partner is being overly controlling and angry in response.

But if you just wall off the anger, the ADHD symptoms don’t usually get managed better.

Relationships – and particularly FIXING relationships – are about ‘two’ not ‘one.’ In order to fix them it is best to not build a wall, but seek ways to constructively engage, instead.

Are you hiding behind a wall right now?

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It is one of those holidays that can bedevil couples impacted by ADHD, as ADHD partners often forget to do something special for their partner. If you have ADHD, read Melissa's suggestions.

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"Tackling Resentment in ADHD Impacted Relationships" February 28, 2026, 12 - 1:00 PMI - Melissa's presentation at ADHD ICONnect.

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Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program - (Registration Ongoing). i2a helps couples impacted by ADHD find practical strategies, a safe space to work through challenges, and a supportive community of peers. Our mission is to equip you with actionable expert guidance, a reduced sense of isolation, and foster real, lasting change in your relationships. Learn more and sign up here!

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Non ADHD Partner Support Group - (Registration Open) - Join a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship.

Foundations in Habit Development - (Expected Fall 2026) This special series is for ADHD partners who have completed The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar. This two month program helps you solidify the changes you have started to make.

ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group - (Ongoing) - Work with an ADHD expert who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD. We STRONGLY recommend you also take the ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar

Couples Support Group - (Registration Open) - Seven sessions. 5 couples only will work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) master facilitator, Jason Weber, to understand what ‘parts’ of themselves are participating in the parent-child dynamics and learn how to compassionately move away from it.

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