Calm or Storm in Your Relationship?

ADHD & Marriage News - October 20, 2026

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“...there are a whole group of people out there that deal with some variation of what I'm dealing with...Oh my gosh -- I'm not alone! And it's so helpful to know that it's the situation we're in, it's no one's fault."

- Non-ADHD partner in i2a

Calm vs Storm

When things are calm in a relationship it can be easy to understand intellectually that we need to treat our partner better, but it can be hard to internalize emotionally that we have to really commit to DOING so.

While some things are easier learned in that storm, it is an emotionally hard place to be. Instead, work together as a couple to treat each other kindly and with respect. Otherwise, you will not thrive.

Why not do it now, while you are still speaking to each other and willing to work together, rather than wait for that storm to come?

For all of you who, in your anger and resentment, are struggling with implementing the ideals of respect, kindness, empathy and validation, we hope that you will check out our Intent to Action (i2a) Membership program.

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