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Are you secretly having an emotional or physical affair?  It’s pretty common in struggling relationships, particularly those with and ADHD partner.  Poor impulse control can lead to porn or sex addictions and difficult relationships can lead either partner to seek affection outside of the relationship.

Aside from the hurt these actions will eventually cause your spouse when they find out (and they likely will) these are coping strategies that point away from your partner and relationship.  If you think you want to have a better relationship you need to engage, not move away!  And the time to engage with your partner and disengage from your porn or affair is now.

Think carefully about your current situation and ask yourself “is what I’m doing making my relationship better?”  If you’re honest, the answer is likely “no.”  I urge you to reconsider. 

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