Time Flies

ADHD & Marriage News - May 30, 2020

Quote of the Week

“Who knows where the time goes?”

-Martha Wainwright

Time Flies

The older I get, the more I realize just how precious each day is.  And how much faster each day speeds by!

When it comes to marriage, I think it’s important to understand that time is the one precious resource that you can never, ever get more of.  You may choose to retreat from your partner or from your problems.  It is a common coping strategy, but I urge you to make it only a very short-term one.  Instead of continuing to retreat, seek help from a professional, from a course, from books that can provide insight and inspiration.  Even if you are tired of all of the work and the struggles you face, remind yourself that you will never get this time back again.  Your life is precious.  Your time is precious.  Your connections with family are precious.  If ruptured, they need to be fixed.

Towards that end, here are some of my favorite resources for making your days and life better:

For couples:

My couples seminar is the best resource available for couples impacted by ADHD who wish to create change, not just learn about their issues.

• My books, The ADHD Effect on Marriage and The Couple’s Guide to Thriving with ADHD provide a great overview, great tools and food for thought.

Dare to Forgive can help you start to move away from the stranglehold that negative feelings about your past together creates.  When you forgive your partner and yourself you are more likely to be able to move forward.

• Working with a professional who understands ADHD.  See my Resources Page for specific suggestions.

For parents of children with ADHD:

Parenting ADHD Now! is the best book out there for parents of kids up to about age 15.

ImpactADHD.com provides parent coaching and educational programs for parents of complex kids, including ADHD

I Always Want to Be Where I’m Not by Wes Crenshaw is targeted to young adults ages 16-30 to help them understand living their lives with ADHD

For adults with ADHD:

My couples seminar is a game changer for many, as is getting an evaluation (if you haven’t had one) and starting to optimize treatment for ADHD (see my free treatment e-book on my home page for more on this)

• Mindfulness training can help one manage ADHD – The Mindfulness Prescription for Adult ADHD is one resource for this.  There are also courses you can take in person that are more generally about mindfulness (Google some in your area).

For non-ADHD partners:

• I now offer non-ADHD partner support groups, please contact me here if you wish to be put on a notification mailing list when new dates are posted for these group

Co-Dependent No More by Melody Beatty is very useful for addressing parent/child dynamics

The Dance of Anger is useful for starting to address non-ADHD partner anger in women

You can find many more resources at my website, ADHDmarriage.com.  Please explore it, and send me questions if you have them.


Free VIRTUAL OFFICE HOURS with Melissa to support you during the COVID-19 crisis.  More information is here.

Tuesday, June 9 7:30 - 9pm EASTERN time

For those in marriages impacted by ADHD

You can find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD at adhdmarriage.com, including free: Online treatment overview; Downloadable chapters of my books; A community forum with other couples facing similar issues; A large number of blog posts on various topics; Referrals. Adult ADHD can have a huge impact on your relationship. ADHDmarriage.com can literally change your life!  


Is your relationship in trouble? Consider my highly acclaimed couples' course: ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - This 8-session phone seminar has helped many couples thrive in healthier, happier relationships. The live session starts Fall 2020.

Support Tele-groups - Be part of a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; and find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship: Non ADHD Partner Support Tele-group.

How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD - go to the home page for a free download about the best ways to manage ADHD.

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