“…for Americans, “desperately wanting to be happy is linked with lower psychological health.” (“in collectivist societies, happiness is linked with social endeavors…spending time with (others)…in the US, chasing the best career, buying stuff are expected to lead to happiness”)” -From a study recently published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology: General
Americans have an interesting approach to pursuing happiness – chasing the best career, buying televisions no matter how little money we have, going on ‘retail therapy’ jaunts and the like. Yet repeated research studies demonstrate that beyond a certain income (about $75,000 a year per household) having more money, and what it can buy, are not correlated with increases in happiness.
In my work, what correlates with improvements in happiness have to do with our relationships – with partners, family and friends. As I look back on my own marital and family history, I wish I had spent less time organizing and more time simply focusing on creating joy with those I love.
If that feels impossible to you because you are struggling so much with your partner, I suggest you consider taking my live ADHD Effect In-Depth couples seminar given by phone, starting in October or as a self-study course. I don’t suggest this to have you spend more money…but rather because it is a unique and excellent resource for changing your relationship for the better…and creating the joy you thought you had lost. Please take a moment to read the testimonials here - it really does change lives for the better!
For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
You can find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD at adhdmarriage.com, including: a free online treatment overview; free downloadable chapters of my books; a community forum with other couples facing similar issues; a large number of blog posts on various topics; referrals; and my very popular couples courses: ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - Live session starts October 2016 and self-study available for download if you can't wait that long - this 8-session phone seminar has helped many couples turn around their relationship and Recovering Closeness in Your Relationship - a 7-session self-study seminar will get you going with critical information, tools and weekly exercises to regain your closeness, dreams, friendship…and yes, improve your love life!