In his book, “When,” Dan Pink writes about evidence that your circadian rhythm can help you figure out the right time to do your productive and creative work. If you’re a morning person, you should do your analytical work early when you’re at peak alertness; your routine tasks around lunchtime in your trough; and your creative work in the late afternoon or evening when you’re more likely to do nonlinear thinking. If you’re more of a night owl, you might be better off flipping creative projects to your fuzzy mornings and analytical tasks to your clearest-eyed late afternoon and evening moments.
-Adam Grant in NY Times
Use Your Circadian Rhythm
How many people have told me that by listening to what their body is telling them, they do better throughout their day?! Many with ADHD are ‘night owls’, while many non-ADHD partners are ‘larks.’
Please don’t try to impose your circadian rhythm on your partner!
That said, this combo brings up issues with connection. If you never see each other because you are on different biological clocks, you will have trouble remaining connected. And, if the night owl isn’t getting enough sleep, then s/he will suffer from the problems of sleep deprivation, which include mental lethargy, an increase in ADHD symptoms, increased irritability and, in my observation, a lessened connection with one’s partner as all of the above take over.
So…do listen to your body – and not only what time of day it functions best, but also in that it needs more sleep than what you may be getting right now.
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