“…people can be independent thinkers and team players at the same time.” - Carol Dweck, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success
I would like to take this model – of independent thinkers who are also team players – and magically overlay it onto every ADHD / non-ADHD partnership I know! Because, truly, it is at this intersection that couples truly thrive because they are equal in status in the relationship and both valued. Unfortunately, the presence of ADHD symptoms – and responses to those symptoms – often results in parent/child dynamics that are just the opposite of independent thinkers who are team players.
If you have been struggling with parent/child dynamics, perhaps setting your sites on Dweck’s more ‘business-like’ goal can provide an easier path away from this destructive dynamic. What would you need to do in your relationship to be both independent thinkers and team players?
Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD wins 2 book awards! ...a Gold award for Best Psychology Book of 2014 from Foreword Reviews and the Silver Benjamin Franklin Award for psychology from the IBPA (Independent Book Publishers Association). To celebrate, I'm offering $5 off the audiobook until August 1st - use coupon code AWARD at checkout.
For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
Please take a moment to investigate the information for couples impacted by ADHD on ADHDMarriage.com, including: an online treatment overview; downloadable chapters of my books; a community forum with other couples facing similar issues; a large number of blog posts on various topics; referrals; and my very popular couples courses: