“Let Go” - sticky note permanently pasted to my computer”
Don’t Be Sticky
I’ve heard it said that ADHD adults often find themselves paired with non-ADHD partners who have significant anxiety. Personally, I think this isn’t quite accurate – I, for example, did not start out an anxious person, but living with a partner with undiagnosed ADHD for many years increased my anxiety to a point where it now definitely plays a role in our relationship.
As a result, I’ve developed some coping strategies to diminish feelings of anxiety, including reminding myself with this ‘let go’ note, which I see every day! I’ve decided to “be like Teflon” rather than “sticky like Velcro” and that letting things go really helps support positive feelings in my relationship. Note that I’m not talking about disliking things and saying nothing…I’m talking about actually letting go of feeling disgruntled all the time.
How much could you gain by ‘letting go’ more often?
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For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
You can find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD at my marriage and ADHD website, including: an online treatment overview; downloadable chapters of my books; a community forum with other couples facing similar issues; a large number of blog posts on various topics; referrals; and my very popular ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar. This eight-session seminar has helped many couples turn around their relationship, and is given by phone, so anyone may participate. Next session begins Fall 2015.