“As Shakespeare’s character Polonius said in the play Hamlet, “This above all: to thine own self be true.” In trying to be like everyone else, I waged an inner battle, and the biggest loser was me.” - Zoe Kessler, author of ADHD According to Zoe: The Real Deal on Relationships, Finding Your Focus, and Finding Your Keys
Being True to Oneself
Zoe Kessler points out an interesting conundrum in the experience of living with ADHD – that others often wish you to be like everyone else (i.e. non-ADHD) but that there is a huge cost to pursuing this path. Instead, it is much healthier to be true to the best of who you are. That does NOT mean don’t address ADHD symptoms – often these symptoms get in the way of your really thriving (for example, poor organizational skills might mean you miss out on job opportunities or family events that you might love!) But Kessler is suggesting that trying to conform (or even become more organized!) has very real limits. We are all – whether we have ADHD or not – best served when we learn to love ourselves.
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For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
Please take a moment to investigate the information for couples impacted by ADHD on ADHDMarriage.com, including: an online treatment overview; downloadable chapters of my books; a community forum with other couples facing similar issues; a large number of blog posts on various topics; referrals; and my very popular couples courses: