“…all at once it occurred to me that I’d left no room in my life for simple delight. I scheduled, penciled in, or planned everything…” - Sue Fliess
One of the most common ‘mistakes’ that couples make when trying to turn around their relationship is focusing only on the negative – the things that need to be ‘fixed’ in order for them to feel better. Typically, this focus is expressed in terms of criticism and ‘can we talk?’ emotional conversations.
But to thrive, you need the positive, too – as much of it as you can get! Don’t just ‘leave time’ for simple delight – MAKE time for it. It’s critical that you can find ways to delight each other.
For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
You can find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD at my marriage and ADHD website, including: a free online treatment overview; free downloadable chapters of my books; a community forum with other couples facing similar issues; a large number of blog posts on various topics; referrals; and my very popular couples courses:
Recovering Intimacy in Your Relationship - Next session begins November 10 (may change slightly) - This new seminar is designed to help couples become more intimate on every level. Both seminars are given by phone, so anyone may participate.
Adult ADHD can have a huge impact on your relationship. Please take a moment to investigate the information available to you. It can literally change your life!