Nothing is Something!

ADHD & Marriage Weekly Tip - September 30, 2015

Quote of the Week

“Doing nothing can actually be substantially more rewarding than many of the ‘somethings’ that make up normal life.” - Heidi Wachter

Nothing is Something

I don’t know anyone who doesn’t have a huge, long list of things they ‘need’ to do.  These ‘somethings’ will easily rule our lives, if we let them.

Not too long ago, my husband and I were hiking near San Francisco when he happened to spot a shady bench that overlooked an amazing vista of hills and mountains.  We sat down and just held hands.  Then my husband, who had not slept long the night before, put his head in my lap and fell asleep.

While I was sitting there I realized that it might be the first time in years when I was sitting down for a stretch of time, and doing absolutely nothing.  Not even planning to do anything!  Just sitting. With my hands gently on my husband’s chest and head as he breathed in and out.

It felt wonderful.

As I age I look back at all of the ‘somethings’ that have ruled my life – particularly around taking care of children and homes – and realize that my husband and I have not had enough time together ‘doing nothing.’  We should have taken more time for that!

In the future I suspect we will do more.  We will still exercise like crazy because we love to…but have been reminded that ‘nothing’ really is ‘something’ worthwhile.


Next Live Session Starts Tuesday!

ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Live Seminar begins October 6 and Recovering Intimacy in Your Relationship begins November 10.  Logistics: call the phone number, from two locations if you need to, and follow along with the materials I will send to you the day before.  I record each session and send you the link the next day so you can keep it for future use or listen to it if you missed the live session.  Very simple – no technical hassles.

Participants get multiple opportunities to send me written questions…and I answer and share them ALL by the end of the course.

The course also includes optional - because not everyone is ready to do the homework - worksheets, readings, etc.

Are you ready to improve your relationship? This course has helped many, many couples.  Read their testimonials at the bottom of the seminar page.

For those in marriages impacted by ADHD

You can find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD at, including: a free online treatment overview; free downloadable chapters of my books; a community forum with other couples facing similar issues; a large number of blog posts on various topics; referrals; and my very popular couples courses:
ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - Beginning October 6, this eight-session seminar has helped many couples turn around their relationship, and
Recovering Intimacy in Your Relationship - Beginning November 10, this new seminar is designed to help couples become more intimate on every level. Both seminars are given by phone, so anyone may participate.
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