The Optimist and Pessimist


ADHD & Marriage - Weekly Marriage Tip - December 16, 2013

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“Twixt the optimist and pessimist
The difference is droll
The optimist sees the doughnut
But the pessimist sees the hole”

- taken from a Harvard Medical School health brochure


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The Optimist and Pessimist

(High brow poetry from Harvard!)  Which are you?  A pessimist or optimist?  The answer is actually important.  Research suggests that optimism is a predictor of success in life.  People who are optimistic tend to be “open” to what comes towards them.  Since we are all showered with interesting (sometimes even good) ideas and opportunities, the ability to be open enough to consider them means that when something good comes your way you see it and can act on it if you choose.  If you are a pessimist – meaning you are closed to new ideas – then you don’t notice them.  You’re likely to miss ideas that could really benefit you.

Have you been open to new ideas this week?

I hope you all have a lovely end of the year and, hopefully, some vacation (or at least a bit of rest!)  I'll be back in touch in the first week of January.

For those of you still undecided about your holiday gift giving, consider giving the gift of a better relationship by enrolling in my upcoming couple's seminar (starts January 28th).  This course is given by phone (and recorded, if you miss a session) and has helped many couples start to turn their relationship around.

For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
If you or your spouse has ADHD, please join our forum at to ask your questions and learn from others who share your issues.  In addition, you'll find in-depth essays and a terrific recorded in-depth seminar to help you learn how to thrive in a marriage affected by ADHD.
Hope to hear from you there!
Melissa Orlov

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