Reconnecting to the Core

ADHD & Marriage News - October 27, 2026

Quote of the Week

"…it is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.”

- from The Little Prince

Sometimes people want me to predict whether or not they will be able to repair their relationship. Even after so many years, I reply that I cannot know. This is because of that which is ‘invisible to the eye,’ a.k.a. love.

Complex and difficult emotions can obscure what I think of as a hidden kernel of something special at the core of a relationship. Doing the work of calming a relationship and reconnecting can expose that core of love again. Once that happens love can expand again and take over.

Sometimes it’s other emotions that are invisible to the eye. For example, grief that has not been allowed out, anger that is boxed off, or the hint of a loss of hope that things will never get better.

These essential emotions deserve respect.

- Melissa

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