“Pain is mandatory for all of us. It’s what teaches us. Suffering is what’s optional. That’s what happens when we try to skip over the pain.”
- Fortune cookie
Smiles Work Wonders
What makes you happy?’ I recently asked my husband. ‘Seeing you smile’ was his response. You can look at the research on why this happens, and how strong is the impact of a smile. Or, you can just remember. Have you ever been made to feel worse when you saw someone you cared about smile in genuine happiness? Didn’t think so!
So what happens if you search for reasons to smile? If you say to yourself I will find something that makes me happy today, and show it? I remember that when I felt hopeless finding those smiles was HARD! But when I did, I always felt better. And so did my family. My smile was a gift to others.
Seek out reasons to smile. Then share those with your partner – even if you’re not feeling as if your relationship overall is feeling wonderful. Your efforts will soften up your life, and make it a bit easier to keep going.
For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
You can find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD at adhdmarriage.com, including: a free online treatment overview; free downloadable chapters of my books; a community forum with other couples facing similar issues; a large number of blog posts on various topics; referrals; and my very popular couples course: ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - This highly acclaimed, eight-session phone seminar has helped many couples turn around their relationship. The next live session starts October 2017.