Stubborn and Flexible


ADHD & Marriage - Weekly Marriage Tip - March 27, 2014

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“Be really, really flexible and really, really stubborn at the same time. If you’re really rigid and unable to change, then you’re not going to be successful in the wilderness. But you also have to be stubborn. If you’re not, you’re going to want to go home when things get hard. So it’s this interesting process of bending and not breaking when you go out there.”

- Jennifer Pharr Davis, endurance hiker



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Stubborn and Flexible

In his endorsement, Ned Hallowell described my new book, The Couple’s Guide to Thriving with ADHD, as “a rich and friendly foray into the wilds of ADHD.” I could relate to that idea – living with ADHD can be very much like a wilderness experience! So I was delighted when I stumbled upon this quote from Jennifer Pharr Davis. Doesn’t it describe that delicate balance we all try to make to adjust to ADHD?

Flexibility to handle everything that comes at you by surprise…and then great stubbornness to stick with the challenges. Yep, that’s pretty much it in a nutshell!

Take today to congratulate yourself on your success so far at balancing these two very different characteristics…and perhaps a few moments to see if you can think of these two traits as really wonderful assets in the journey that is living with ADHD.


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