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by: Off the roller ... -
Hey Swedish, I logged on just to come on here and say how frustrating (moreso than just the normal frustration!) that must be to hear that. It is devastating and I can understand it so well bc I have been a recipient of that devastation too. I also wondering what you meant by turning things around? For yourself, I hope? I don't have a magic wand of course (or I'd defintely wave it your way for sure) but I'm in intensive therapy right now and my realisation is that while I thought it was triage for my...>>> on Forum topic - He says he hasn’t come up with anything yet
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by: ADHD1488 -
It was that fact that my wife has been talking to this person aswell which I found out the day before, I have no problem with her fantasying if it's just that but she acted on it is the problem. My wife has never had a problem having an orgasm with me and even saying my name when at climax so I don't think their is a problem with that. She has said that I'm emotionally and intimately the best she's had. I know she's not lying because her ADHD or autism doesn't allow her to lie even white lies that's why...>>> on Forum topic - ADHD in both partners one undiagnosed
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by: J -
"Then she woke up just before I was leaving for work today and cuddled me again as I slept on the sofa last night, but I felt disgusted at the though that she may have masterbate over him last night then down here cuddling me before work." I'm not a an expert on this subject, nor, do I pretend to be but, as I read this last sentence a few things came to mind. I have come to my own personal thoughts on matters like these which I don't assume are shared by everyone. Having said that, I have a few questions...>>> on Forum topic - ADHD in both partners one undiagnosed
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by: c ur self -
Real love is easy....It's two people fully respectful of one another, sharing faithfully, lovingly, and honorably in this life together...Demand for yourself a healthy environment, if that mean's alone, then so be it....There is never a good reason to allow ourselves to be used and manipulated, because we make someone else's life easy!....That is mental and emotional abuse....I don't mean not do the right thing for children....But children must have safe environments, so the adults must be safe people, w/...>>> on Forum topic - ADHD in both partners one undiagnosed
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by: c ur self -
It's control, and the refusal to accept the reality of others (No matter how screwed up those realities are)....Much of my suffering (as is your's at this point in time) has been my demand to make it better! Until you (as I had to) STOP attempting to fix or worry about things out of your control, you will never take a calm hold on your own life....Never feel like you must respond or address things that aren't respectful or fruitful...When adults demand to live out things we would never mimic or touch...We...>>> on Forum topic - Struggling with co-dependancy
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by: ADHD1488 -
I have found out that she started talking to the person she was fantasying over 2 days before we separated and turns out she has done this with him before many years ago before we met. She is telling me he lives in another country and what she is doing isn’t wrong. She’s acted on a fantasy weather he’s in another country or not. I feel like she doesn’t want me but doesn’t want me to leave so she doesn’t have to look after the kids on her own etc. I have had this in the pass but because she has told me...>>> on Forum topic - ADHD in both partners one undiagnosed
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by: J -
"Making what you're doing fit the piece, not, trying to fit the piece to what you're doing" This may sound like an obscure post about football, but it's much more than that. This post is about a universal truth....a secret of the universe...about how God works. When you do things in alignment with universe, things always seem to work. When you don't, things don't work as well and its an uphill battle. Last night, the University of Oregon Ducks football team played the culmination of their season this...>>> on Forum topic - Intention and Consistency
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by: CookieCutter -
I don't have much to add other than to say I am so sorry. Only been married 5 years, and no kids, but you sound a lot like my wife. If it is any consolation, your husband knows how much you are suffering and feels terrible I am sure, but this is an uphill battle for him too. Has he read Melissa's book?>>> on Forum topic - Struggling
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by: Saira -
I don't really feel like I was being brave. More like, I don't know, like maybe there was room for a different perspective. I admit I kind of just expected to get shot down and told that I didn't understand what people like me put their partners through and I'd understand that. It wouldn't be completely wrong, but not completely right either. I do think I understand part of it. Maybe not full empathy, but I can grasp that it's extremely painful and frustrating from an objective standpoint at the very least...>>> on Forum topic - Do they realize as soon as they say they'll do something that they have no plans to ACTUALLY do it??
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