In this post, Melissa writes about: the gap between the amazing relationship you thought you were signing up for, and the relationship you actually got with adult ADHD in the mix; why it’s so important to grieve about the loss of your romantic dreams; and how to do it.
In a lovely success story, one woman tells how she and her husband discovered that his long-standing habit of interrupting her was a coping strategy to mask ADHD distraction. Could this be happening to you?
A struggling couple asks what ADHD has to do with one man's quick rages. His partner writes 'He can be a lovely person but it doesn't take much to make him snap , in particular with me.' Alcohol makes it worse. Melissa explores what could be going on, how it's related to ADHD, and how to respond.
Treatment for adult ADHD often includes medication, but research clearly indicates that medication alone is not the best treatment for ADHD. Further, about 20-30% of adults can’t find a medication that works for them, or works without side effects. Use this method for getting the most out of treatment for adult ADHD.
Sometimes it feels like you're in a bind – you want to communicate that something is bothering you, but you're trying hard not to nag or parent your ADHD partner. If you don’t say anything, chances are good that not much will change. But if you suggest something got forgotten again, it sounds like a critique. What do you do?
Over 15 years ago, when I was feeling unhappy in my relationship, my husband asked me what the chore he should take over. To his surprise, I said ‘do the dishes!!!’ Turns out, I’m not the only one who feels this way. Sharing dish duties turns out to be really important to a whole lot of women.