We had a long post (and follow-up email) from a woman who is at her wits end about how to resolve the “do I stay or leave?” question. She cares for her husband, but he is driving her crazy and he impacts her life so negatively that she was depressed and on medications for a while. A couple of people have already responded with supportive advice, so check out the comments, but here is the original message and our thoughts:
We received this question from a reader:
"How can an ADHD affected spouse get a job and hold it to earn a living if he cannot find his keys/wallet/cellphone etc? How can a spouse NOT be tired out by repeated same scenarios of disorder and chaos repeatedly discussed and never changing?"
These are questions that cut to the heart of the long-term ADHD relationship. I would like to address the non-ADHD spouse first, then circle back to the ADHD spouse.
When ADHD is in the marital mix, it can be a real challenge to get household chores done without one or the other feeling exasperated, angry or shamed. Here are my top 10 tips for organizing your home when one (or both!) partner has ADHD:
A woman shares her concerns surrounding her husband's diagnosis and subsequent behavior. Here is some advice.
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In her first blog post, Sari Solden shares some tips on self acceptance.
I came upon this article about making one ADD spouse / one non-ADD spouse marriages work. The author, Andrea Little (now Andrea Betts) had culled these guidelines together with her marriage support group peers. I link to it here and hope that you enjoy the group's perspective and collective wisdom.
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The ADHD Effect on Marriage was listed in Huff Post as a top book that therapists suggest all couples should read.
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