Can this ever be good?

Hi All! I am wondering if a relationship with an ADHD person can ever be good. I've heard the phrasing "good enough" used a lot. But what does this actually look like? As the non-ADHD partner, the amount of "sacrifice" for my relationship needs feels disproportionate and diminishing. For instance, understanding that my partner is "not intending to ignore me" does not really help me feel less ignored. I want to feel special, thought of, and have a spouse that shows interest in me. I am having trouble seeing this as compatible with an ADHD spouse. What are the success stories? How did you get there? And to what extent have you sacrificed your own needs in the process? (for clarity, there are moments where I feel special, but I need consistency and that is something that also feels too challenging to my partner).