Well, I just had enough tonight and I left. I just didn´t see any way forward. We had the discussion again about the christmas card (described here, a lengthy entry: http://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/not-getting-through#comment-5641). I tried all possible ways to offer an explanation, the easiest one to call my friend and ask why he had taged the envelope with only my name and our sons name. But my spouse didn't want that or any explanation. I was called a liar which I'm not. We had a big fight. And I just couldn't take it any more, so I left. I'm so exhausted, but I do actually experience, at least at this moment, some relief. I hope I won't ever have to endure anything like the past year again.